Like, ok, my OS didn’t ship with gender.exe, that’s an aftermarket DLC consisting of 95% cosmetic skins, and I’m busy trying to roll out kernel patches. Sorry about that! ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
I only run it to avoid social issues and/or because it’s the path of least resistance. And even then… I’ve only ever thought “I am doing A, B, & C, and avoiding X, Y & Z because they expect me to and it’s just easier”.
I know I don’t want to change my gender – there’s not much there to speak of in the first place. I simply want to do what I like. On the other hand, I know that this is “not normal” because most other guys seem way more attached to their gender, like it’s an existential threat to them if I cross an imaginary line while existing next to them. And they act compelled to know “what” other people are, as if they’ll implode because they won’t know how to be around them!
So the best thing for me to do is to get around people who care about other people LARPing at gender just as much as I do.
(To be clear, I have absolutely no problems with anyone else wearing the gender layers of their choice, and wearing them proudly. As long as they’re not an asshole. I actually kinda envy this, because for me it’s like wearing a parka in a hot car. Changing its color won’t do anything, I actually just don’t even want it, I want to live my life without carrying around these heavy rulesets for what color my shoes need to be. LMAO, hope you can find it in yourself to forgive me! ¯\_(ツ)_/¯)
Yup. This is why I can’t tell if I’m trans or if I just want to be unmarked.
This really hits.
Like, ok, my OS didn’t ship with gender.exe, that’s an aftermarket DLC consisting of 95% cosmetic skins, and I’m busy trying to roll out kernel patches. Sorry about that! ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
I only run it to avoid social issues and/or because it’s the path of least resistance. And even then… I’ve only ever thought “I am doing A, B, & C, and avoiding X, Y & Z because they expect me to and it’s just easier”.
I know I don’t want to change my gender – there’s not much there to speak of in the first place. I simply want to do what I like. On the other hand, I know that this is “not normal” because most other guys seem way more attached to their gender, like it’s an existential threat to them if I cross an imaginary line while existing next to them. And they act compelled to know “what” other people are, as if they’ll implode because they won’t know how to be around them!
So the best thing for me to do is to get around people who care about other people LARPing at gender just as much as I do.
(To be clear, I have absolutely no problems with anyone else wearing the gender layers of their choice, and wearing them proudly. As long as they’re not an asshole. I actually kinda envy this, because for me it’s like wearing a parka in a hot car. Changing its color won’t do anything, I actually just don’t even want it, I want to live my life without carrying around these heavy rulesets for what color my shoes need to be. LMAO, hope you can find it in yourself to forgive me! ¯\_(ツ)_/¯)